The different places that “To:” can come from.
You’re probably sending to the wrong email address.
I know, I know, you’re absolutely convinced you’re sending to the right one — but the bounce message would indicate otherwise. I had it happen to me just the other day. I was absolutely convinced … until I saw my error.
Let’s look at why the two scenarios are different.
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When you reply to an email it goes to the email address the sender specified. This is usually correct. When you type in an email address it’s easy to mistype and have that error be hidden by the email’s display name or other confusing user interfaces. It’s important to confirm the actual email address — not the display name — is letter-perfect, especially if it’s in your contacts list or address book. Make sure to pay close attention to bounce messages, as they’ll often tell you exactly what’s wrong.
Where the “To:” email address comes from
When you send a new email to someone, the email address you send To: comes from either of two places:
- You type the email address in by hand.
- Your use your address book or contacts list to enter it automatically.
Errors come from either method, and can be very, very subtle.
When you reply to a message, however, the email address you’re sending To: comes from the email message you are replying to, and nowhere else. It can still be wrong, of course, but generally, because it’s the email address of the other person, they’re the one who typed it in, and presumably got it correct.1
Names and addresses
Before we get to the details of how things can go wrong, we need to review exactly what makes up an email address.
There are two parts: the “display name” and the email address. They’re often displayed together:
Ask Leo! <email@example.com>
The display name is, as its name implies, the text we see and recognize as someone’s name. The email address follows it in angle brackets.
The first confusion is simply that the display name can look like an email address:
There’s nothing wrong with that, but it’s important to realize that even though it looks like an email address, the display name is not the email address. Consider this one:
The display name looks correct, but the email address — the email address actually used to send your message — is wrong.
Finally, in an effort to keep things simple, many email programs only display the display name and “hide” the email address. Hover over the link below with your cursor, and you’ll see the email address displayed in the lower part of your screen.
If the email address is wrong, you’d never know it without looking deeper. Even worse is when the display name looks like an email address, but the actual email address is different and incorrect:
It looks right, but the actual email address has that pesky typo and won’t work.
What can be wrong
Email addresses must be exactly correct, so it’s pretty easy to get one wrong by accident.
It’s easy to mistype. A keyboard bounce, a slipped finger, and all of a sudden you’re entering something like “firstname.lastname@example.org” instead of the correct “email@example.com”. Even more subtle might be “firstname.lastname@example.org”, where the initial ‘L’ is a numeric one by mistake. The result will be a message that doesn’t make it to where you intend. It may or may not bounce.
It gets even more subtle: in some email systems, once you send an email to some email address, whether it bounces or not, the email address you typed is added to the auto-complete suggestion list. As soon as you start typing, say “le”, the system suggests “email@example.com”, which is easy to miss and accept by mistake. The only solution here is to remove the auto-complete suggestions using whatever options are available in your email program or interface. (This is exactly what happened to me recently.)
It gets worse, though. Some systems add email addresses to which you’ve sent mail to your address book. More than just a “suggestion”, these items define exactly what email address is supposed to be used for what person. If you somehow have a bad entry for “Leo”, with a wrong address of “firstname.lastname@example.org”, then as soon as you type “Leo”, the email program may enter the incorrect address without your having to do anything more.
The only solution here is to carefully examine the address book entry for that contact, and make absolutely certain their email address is correct. While you’re in there, it’s also worth looking to see if your contact has more than one entry, and one of them is wrong.
How to fix it all
Since it’s working, you should look carefully at the email address used when you reply. Make sure you’re looking at the email address and not the display name.
Make careful note of it. Perhaps even copy/paste somewhere like notepad to make it easier to see.
First, search your address book to see if you have an entry for this recipient. Then, either:
- Carefully edit the email address to be correct — perhaps even pasting in the email address you copied from a reply. Do this even if it looks correct. Sometimes similar-looking characters (like the number ‘1’ versus the letter ‘l’) can cause problems. By pasting the email address you know to be correct, you avoid any assumptions.
- Delete the contact so it’s never suggested as a send-to email address again, until or unless you add it back. When you add it again, don’t type it, but rather use your email program’s “add to address book” function on the “From:” address of a message you received from this contact. That’ll have the same effect of copy/pasting the email address correctly.
Then, compose a new message and start typing the email address you intend to send to. Pay extremely close attention to the suggestions made by your email program. Delete any that are incorrect. (Exactly how depends on what email program or interface you use.)
After you’ve entered the email address and the email program has placed it in the “To:” field, hover over it, click on it, or take whatever steps necessary to confirm that it’s sending to the email address you think it is.
Bounce messages have more detail
One of the more frustrating aspects of dealing with email delivery problems is that saying “the email bounced” is the equivalent to saying “it doesn’t work” — it gives me no information.
The contents of the email bounce message, such as that shown at the top of this article, generally has a lot more information about why the email bounced. Be sure to read the entire bounce message looking for clues, and pass it on to whomever you’re reaching out to for help. (In fact, always provide lots of information when asking for help.)
While an incorrect email address is usually the culprit, other things can go wrong, and it’s the contents of that bounce message that holds clues as to what to do next.
Footnotes & References
1: No one would be able to reply to them if they got it wrong, so it generally gets fixed pretty quickly.