I have a pop3 mail address which I use. It belongs to my
boyfriend! Is it possible for him (as administrator) to
receive all copies of my incoming and outgoing mail and if so
– how do I detect whether he is doing so? Incidentally I used
another account to ask you this question!!! Just in case!
In short: absolutely. And it’s almost impossible for you to tell.
So what can you do? And what can you count on?
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Your case is easy: get another email account that only
you have access to.
It’s worth noting, though, that the administrators involved
in maintaining whatever system you use for email can, if they
desire, access your email. For example, your ISP and the
administrators on the server of whomever you exchange email with
can see the messages you send there.
If that administrator happens to be your boyfriend, and you don’t
quite trust him … well, then you
should get that second email account somewhere where he is
not an administrator.
I won’t comment on what to do with a boyfriend you don’t trust.