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Why Am I Being Labeled a Spammer?

You might be collateral damage in the war against spam.

Possibly being labeled a spammer is another reason not to forward political and other emails. Do it enough and your normal email may not get delivered.
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As I write this, thousands of people have my email address. It’s right there on the “From:” line of every newsletter I send.

Naturally, some of them forward me jokes, political messages, and even hoaxes or urban legends. I know they mean well and do so with the best of intentions.

But I mark them all as spam. It seems harsh, but I feel I have to.

Because that’s exactly what they are.

Even if I don’t, others may, and because of that, there’s a very important lesson here in making sure that the rest of your email keeps getting delivered.

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Are you a spammer?

Spam is whatever the recipient says it is, so if enough people getting your messages mark them as spam, then email systems start to consider you a spammer. Be respectful of other people’s inboxes, and you should be fine.

What is spam?

In its purest form, spam is simply email you didn’t ask for. Some folks limit it to “commercial” email, but many do not.

It’s a simple definition.

You can argue about it all you want (and I often do), but the fact is people will push the “Report Spam” button on almost anything they don’t like.

Getting your email delivered

I’ll use Google’s Gmail as my example here.

When a Gmail user hits the “spam” button on an email you sent, that’s a strike against your email account. That person is telling Google that any email that looks like this is spam as far as they’re concerned.

One of the biggest things Google can look at as part of trying to define what “looks like this” is the email address the message was sent from.


If that happens often enough or happens from enough different recipients on Google, then Google will start automatically marking email that looks like that as spam without needing to be told further.

In other words, your email won’t get delivered. That includes not getting delivered to all the other people on Gmail that never once called it spam.

This applies to just about any email system that has a “Spam” or “Junk” reporting system.

“But I just sent something important/funny/pretty, not spam!”

It doesn’t matter. You don’t get to define what is and is not spam; your recipient does.

And by reporting spam, your recipients can affect whether your email makes it to others.

I know that this doesn’t feel right, but it is what it is. People want control over what shows up in their inbox and marking any unsolicited email as spam is one way to do it.

Why I have to

I tried replying and asking people to stop forwarding me stuff.

Not only does that take time, but people got angry with me for daring to do so. No one wants to deal with angry people, but I still want to stop getting their forwards.

So, one click and it’s marked as spam. I get on with my life. If it’s a one-shot email, it probably affects nothing. If it’s a repeat offender, eventually Google will get the message and mark it as spam for me, removing it from the email I need to see.

This isn’t about me

As I said, people got angry when I replied. I expect people will get annoyed at what I’ve said here, blaming me for being too draconian in my approach to email I didn’t ask for.

This isn’t about me.

This is about all your other recipients who are doing exactly the same thing without telling you.

If you find that your email isn’t getting delivered to people, ask yourself this: have I been sending them things they didn’t ask for? Lots of humor? Petitions? Politics? Irresistible pictures and videos?

If the answer is yes, then it’s possible that by using the “Spam” button, they’ve convinced their email provider that email from you is spam.

Do this

Be respectful of other people’s inboxes. Remember, what you think might be important, funny, or whatever, someone else might consider spam.

Here’s something that isn’t spam: that newsletter I mentioned above: subscribe to Confident Computing! Less frustration and more confidence, solutions, answers, and tips in your inbox every week.

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21 comments on “Why Am I Being Labeled a Spammer?”

  1. My computer seems to be sending out meaningless spam to everyone on my email list. Why and how is this happening and/or how can I fix this? Dave

  2. I had to blacklist my mom…no amount of pleading would stop her from sending me AOL’s new email tracking reward program or eveidence that Obama was born in Pakistan. I catch up with her when I’m removing viruses she got “from her new router”.

  3. Spam is unsolicited commercial email. Period. Marking unwanted personal mail as spam is just as wrong as sending jokes and chain letters.

  4. Sounds like these spam definitions are mainly from elitists who do not wish to hear from the peasants. Too bad that they have so little time for us senders that care about them and want only to share a funny story or check on their well being. So be it, just block out those folks in your address book. Save your valuable efforts to confort.

  5. For most mailers, it only takes a couple of clicks to make a filter from the message. Either the address or topic are never seen again, or you can put the message into a junk folder and peruse that folder at your leisure. At least you’re only making decisions for yourself, not for a bunch of other people who may not want you to decide for them.

  6. My ISP considers your mailings spam. Not my idea; I didn’t ask them to do it. You might want to ask yourself what makes your material look like junk mail before under taking to lecture other folks.

  7. Tbird considers Leo’s newsletter email every Tuesday to be a scam.
    It says so in bold letters and also when I click on a link in the newsletter.
    I suppose I could report it as such instead of taking the millionth of a second it take to press the “ignore warning button”.
    Maybe I should since I’ll never get that microsecond back!

    To be fair I don’t get the volume of mail Leo gets and very little of the mail I do get is spam.
    I can see his point.
    My gmail account accurately marks spam as spam,
    and any joke etc. from family and friends I treat on a case by case basis.
    I rarely press the SPAM button since I don’t want “legitimate” mail from my family etc. bounced.

    If SPAM does make it through my filters then I report it.

    The only spam I get is with my gmail accounts and that gets filtered to trash automagically.

    I get no spam on my ISP account or my domain account.

    The whole issue of Thunderbird thinking a message is a scam (not sPam) is this article: Why does my email program think that this message might be a scam?


  8. I got labeled once as a spammer for exchanging emails with a Canadian friend. At the time his ISP had gone to a service called Barracuda to filter their Internet traffic. It was odd timing because he sent me a joke which got to me just fine but when I responded it got bounced back and it said it was returned because I had been labeled a spammer. What I figured out after the fact was that certain words were spam triggers. In this case it was “Viagra” which was in the joke. My friend used animated emoticons all through his emails. The place that provided them, free of course, embedded a link to their site and a little dancing figure at the bottom of all his emails. So a key word plus an embedded link were part of what got me dinged even though both had originated with him and my response was only “Good one!”.

    What surprised me was that every one of my 5 ISP provided addresses, both my Hotmail addresses, and my Yahoo emails were also bounced for the same reason so it must have looked at the address origination ISP address.

    I tried contacting Barracuda knowing their stuff was flawed if it was tagging me as a spammer but they would never contact me back. They had just rolled out their service so I’m sure there were lots of bugs to work out.

    It took me over a week and a dozen emails to his ISP plus him contacting them to get it all resolved but I was finally unblocked.

    Another time I was sent a job offer -a legit one- and I had to respond within 24 hours because there was another candidate. I was blocked when I tried to respond by something called Black Guard, Black List or something with Black in it. I was bouncing off the walls because it was on a late Friday afternoon when I received the email notice. The HR person’s phone number had a full voice mailbox when I tried to call the number so an email was my only hope. I researched the error code at the site and found out it wasn’t me specifically that was blocked. My entire ISP had been blocked so nothing with an address could get through their company’s ISP servers. There was an appeal form on ther site and a “Please, this is important” type request. Both were not something I could submit as just a private individual. And it was the weekend. I called the Black List people that Monday along with Comcast. Both said “We are aware of the problem and we’re working on it.” I didn’t get the job which sticks in my craw to this day.

    I haven’t looked yet but I thought there was an article in a recent Ask Leo that said not to mark emails as spam unless they truly were spam because it could have consequences for the sender including being blocked. I read and participate in a number of tech newsletters and tech sites so I am not sure where I read it.

    I know what Leo is doing makes sense on some level and but I look at the Internet as continually growing and that older folks are finally getting on board. I am especially seeing this on Facebook. Many newbies don’t know proper netiquette yet and haven’t learned that there is a lot of bogus stuff out there. I honestly don’t believe they forward this junk to be annoying or mean. I think they view it the same as sharing a joke or gossip at work or something. While that, too can get bothersome, a punch in the gut isn’t the best way to resolve that even though it’s effective. It seems that getting someone labeled a spammer and possibly nullifying their email address and worse, their IP address and any email access at all is like decapitation for bed-wetting. What lesson do they learn iof they get blown up for doing something us veterans of the cyberworld know better than to do. Have we forgotten we were once new to all this, too?

    It seems there should be a spam filter light for email programs that would delete the offender’s emails without doing anything else that could affect them. You know, something simple that could handle it locally right on the machine.

    A lot of people who forward jokes and petitions will stop when I explain to them it is both annoying and that when things like jokes are forwarded the addresses entered to forward them to go to spammers. I also explain that the dozens of email address in the “To:” section are harvested by spammers who forge email address in “From” sections. One friend just called me when his Mom and sister started getting porn site invitations with his email address forged into them. I got to say “I told you so!”

    I do understand that the volume of unwanted stuff Leo gets can be huge but it seems to be there should be a warning system such as an email he could send back. It could state that the person should cease and desist from forwarding stuff and contain a simple explanation on why continued forwarding is both annoying and risky. A clearly stated warning that if the person continues to violate this they will be labeled a spammer and the consequences of such a tag laid out.

    Again I know it may be a hassle, but this minefield approach when no harm is intended by the people who send this stuff seems over the top. For some people email and things like Facebook is all they have to communicate with each other and i would think twice before i trashed that ability for them.

    Now, real spam and spammers- no quarter given! No mercy, no prisoners!

    “it seems to be there should be a warning system such as an email he could send back.” I absolutely agree. And yet when I’ve taken the time to do so all I’ve recieved in return is anger. I can to that a few times, but as a regular practice … no, it’s not something I need.

  9. I can’t remember ever getting an email that I ‘asked for’. You send someone an email to find out how they are going – they didn’t ask for it. So by your definition that is SPAM. You’re a long way off base this time Leo. Your wholesale declaring emails you didn’t ask for SPAM, causes a lot of people a lot of grief. Time to re-evaluate your position I think!

  10. I’ve never marked them as Spam, but after reading this article I’m tempted. I used to very kindly ask people to not send me this stuff, explaining that I really enjoyed hearing from them, news about their family, etc., but I don’t open any “Forwards” — and they always got angry! Spare me the people who ‘check on my well-being’ by sending some non-funny, dumb joke, a ridiculous chain letter or some hateful piece of religious/political dogma. Elitist? Hardly. Not even that busy, frankly. Just someone who has better things to spend her time on than sifting through a boatload of meaningless crap from people who apparently DON’T have anything better to do than clog up the bandwidth and promote yet more ignorance in this country. I know people whose entire online experience consists of forwarding every joke, story and “warning” they receive from like-minded people, sending out up to 50 of them every day — if that’s not spam, what is?

  11. Thank you maybe this explains my situation.
    Are innocent “spammers” ever unblocked?
    I set info and was told that it would be checked.

    Does that system work?

  12. Yes, I can believe ‘spammers ABSOLUTELY love spam’, and, spammers ABSOLUTELY love Chain letters,
    and other such mail.
    Every “Broadcast” e-mail usually gets sent displaying tons of new e-mail addresses. ANY enterprising
    individual can easily sell these addresses. I’m not sure, at this date, what the going rate is but a normal
    bid might be around 100 names for 50 bucks. Maybe more maybe less, but neverthless profitably.

    When I receive one of these e-mails and I see my address mixed in there with 50 or 100 other address I
    can delete the message, BUT, by then it’s too late. My address will already be exposed to any and all
    those other addressees to do with as they please, including passing them out again, or reselling.

    How do you guys feel about passing your address out in heavy batches to strangers? Maybe that’s the
    way one ends up with so much spam to start with.

    Personally, I’m not likely to ever forget what the “Spam” button is.

  13. Hi:
    When you forward an e-mail with your’s and maybe several other’s addresses in the address line
    you have just sold somebody else’s addresses without their permission. Some might be your
    freinds?? Some, you probably don’t even know. Did you get paid for them? Somebody will.

    In the old days, a great deal of privacy was granted to a person’s name. You did not ask
    a person his name without a reason. Sometimes you were introduced. Other times you could offer
    your own name and then wait to see if you got a reply.

    I’m not trying to take us back to the old days but to suggest that an e-mail address does imply
    some degree of privacy, and, suggest we should not circulate anybodie’s address to strangers
    without the addressee’s permission.

  14. Hi Leo, a site I have been going to for years has banned me saying I am a spammer. How can I force them to apologize and reinstate me? Report them to maybe? Thanks for your time and help.

    • The only thing you would be able to do is try to convince them you’re not a spammer if you have any way of contacting them. There’s no way to force them to let you post on their website. wouldn’t be able to do anything about this as it doesn’t fall under the category of abuse. You might try setting up a new account with them using a different email address.

  15. I have been having my email addresses “spoofed” and someone sending out spam using one of my emails as the return address.

    Is there any way to stop this, short of deleting the email account?




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