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Does Getting Porn Spam Mean You’ve Been Surfing Porn Sites?

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Why does my sister’s email get hit with xxx-rated “chat ads”? Mine doesn’t ever… would you have had to visit a site of that type or signed up etc. to be getting those kind of ads?

No.

To the relief of those whose partners have wondered, asked, or accused along those same lines, the answer is an unequivocal no. Getting porn spam does not mean you’ve been visiting porn. Period.

The opposite is also true: not getting porn spam doesn’t imply you haven’t been surfing porn.

Getting porn spam and visiting porn sites are generally unrelated to one another. I’ll explain why that is.

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Websites and email are unrelated

When you visit a website, the site gets a certain amount of information about you, but your email address is not part of it. You don’t provide your email address to view what’s on the site. You can view all the pages you want here on Ask Leo!, and I’ll have no idea who you are.1

I couldn’t email you if I wanted to. (And I do want to, which is why I ask you to sign up for my newsletter. More on that in a moment.)

The same is true for porn sites, or for any other website, for that matter. There’s no way for them to email you, unless …

you give them your email address.

Handing over your email address

OMG! Porn Spam!Of course, you may choose to do exactly that.

For example, you might sign up for my newsletter, and I’ll send it to you once a week. I’m sure the porn industry has similar products — newsletters, subscription sites, discussion forums — requiring an email address to gain access.

And yes, once you give them your email address, they will probably start sending you email. Some may even send what you’d consider to be porn spam.

Even worse, they might also give your email address to someone else who will also start sending you email. (For the record, I do not.) And some or all of that might look like spam, including more porn spam.

But just surfing web sites — and doing so with appropriate anti-malware precautions and common sense — doesn’t give them the information to email you at all. If you haven’t provided your information, they have no way to know who you are.

How you get porn spam

Simply having an email address is enough to start getting spam. Eventually, that’s likely to include scams, phishing attempts, ads for body-enhancement drugs, weight loss products, and, yes, porn.

Most people get spam. Some get more than others, but most do.

At some point, your email address made it onto a list of email addresses used by a spammer. That list may have been sold to another spammer, and another, and another and another, until your email address appears on several spammers’ lists. Some of those might be drug spammers, some who send phishing attempts, and others who want to help you increase the size of certain body parts.

And some send porn spam.

But none of it is at all related to where you’ve been. It’s more related to how visible your email address has been, and whether or not you’ve responded (accidentally or otherwise) to spam in the past by clicking on a link or replying. Once spammers realize an email address is valid and reaches a real person, they send even more spam in your direction.

So, no: if you, your spouse, child, partner, friend, employee, or whoever starts getting porn spam, it doesn’t mean anything.

It certainly doesn’t necessarily mean they’ve been surfing porn.

But like I said, the fact that someone doesn’t get porn spam doesn’t mean that they’ve not been surfing porn, either. The two are simply unrelated.

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131 comments on “Does Getting Porn Spam Mean You’ve Been Surfing Porn Sites?”

  1. I’ve found that some email addresses seem to attract more spam than others. I think it’s because of the random email address generators spammers use. It seems yahoo etc get more spam than lesser known providers, and more obscure names get less spam. I do have one question: It seems like gmail gets less spam than anybody. Do they have a pre-filter that doesn’t even let some spam providers get into the spam box? I know hotmail does this, sometimes with disastrous results, often blacklisting entire email providers. (I’m saying this based on personal experience).

    Not that I’m aware of. I know I have a healthy collection of spam in my GMail spam folder Smile. (And yes, Hotmail’s pre-screening often does lead to disastrous results.)

    Leo
    21-Mar-2010

    • I am so fed up with porn spam emails! I am a heterosexual woman and not in the slightest bit interested in penis enlargement or Russian and Asian prostitutes! I have a seven year old Granddaughter who uses my IPad regularly and is subjected to this filth as well! I would like to see these people in court for sending pornography to minors! What countries put out this filth?

      • It comes from everywhere, and unfortunately your only option is to rely on spam filters. If you are using Gmail the spam filters are pretty good. You may want to go into setting and have Gmail delete all spam quickly so that your Granddaughter does not run across anything in the spam folder.

          • It can be done in Thunderbird and possibly other email programs or email web sites, although I wouldn’t recommend doing it as there is a risk of losing real emails.

            That being said, in Thunderbird, right click on the account name in the left hand column. Click on Settings from the pulldown menu. Click on Junk settings in the left hand column. Underneath where it says, Move new junk messages to:, click on Other. Then click on the folder field and select Local Folders from the pulldown menu. From the resulting pulldown menu select Trash. Now your emails will go into the Trash folder in Local Folders.

            You can go one step further and have Thunderbird empty the Trash folder on exit. (Not a good idea, again you’d want to be able to check your spam messages for false positives.) Click on server settings in the lefthand column. Check the box next to Empty Trash on Exit.

            Those are settings for that individual account. If you have more than one account set up on Thunderbird, repeat those steps for each account.

    • I have noticed that since I asked my husband a out him looking at porn and he said that he wasn’t….that my spam porn mail has nearly disappeared? Coincidence I think not!

      • To me, it sounds like a coincidence because normally, porn spam would likely continue even after someone stops. Once spammers have your address, they have no reason to stop just because you no longer visit porn sites. So, bottom line, as the article states, there’s no way of knowing. As Leo stated “Getting porn spam and visiting porn sites are generally unrelated to one another.”

  2. Can your e-mail address effect the type of spam you receive, or is this down to whom their e-mail is ‘sold’ to?
    I know of people who get bombarded with certain types of spam – one person gets a lot of “hygene product” spam, while another gets “enhancement” spam, and another “foreign partner” spam.

    I’m sure it does. Male names are likely to get more male-related product pitches, for example. Not exclusively or always, just probably more. Similarly hotmail accounts get a lot more spam than private domain accounts.

    Leo
    23-Mar-2010

  3. Another source of spam is posting your email on an open forum. I am always baffled by the number of people who state they a problem on a support forum and then request that then answer be emailed to them. It isn’t going to happen but the ‘bots can harvest a known good email address.

    When you posted that comment I’m sure you saw the instructions that appear that say “don’t include email addresses” – and yet every day my assistant goes through and removed email addresses with “[address removed]” from several posts that blindly ignore that.

    Leo
    26-Mar-2010

  4. I am the Automation Coordinator for a public library. We prohibit the viewing of sexually explicit material on our public computers and though we don’t filter, we do monitor computer use when we suspect a patron is viewing this material.

    More to the point of the question, we look for someone who is obviously seeking out porn. If it comes in their email and they immediately delete it, we don’t worry about it; however, if it is obvious that they are clicking on porn links, we will intervene by closing their session and terminating their internet privileges.

  5. I registered my [3-character] domain, and [3-character] e-mail address, in the mid-Nineties when spam was unheard of. Over the years I’ve noticed a steady increase in spam which, despite numerous filters on my server, I put down to more sophisticated random e-mail harvesters/generators which “happen” upon my e-mail address more frequently. In view of this I registered a very long e-mail address a few years ago which attracts much less spam.

    Leo
    I’ve been getting and look forward to your newsletters now for many years. I’m much older but, thanks to you, much wiser!
    Keep up the excellent work!

  6. 2 things not mentioned are:

    1) Alpha-mailing. Just take a name. “Joe” for example and add @wherever.com, net, edu, etc. Once you open it, they know it’s a valid address.
    2) Ad-tracking cookies. Go to a few pet sites and if they place an ad-tracking cookie, you’ll start getting ads/links for pet stuff.
    Don’t overlook the ‘Blacklist’ feature of your e-mail provider to limit spam.

  7. Yahoo email has a very useful thing called Addressguard which allows you to create disposable email addresses which can be deleted whenever you have finished with them or whenever you start getting spam.

  8. Great timing! My husband was on websites in Hawaii setting up our vacation, and he was using my e-mail address to confirm business transactions. The next day (literally) I started getting tons of porn spam to my e-mail address. A needless fight ensued. Thx for the clarification.

  9. Hi leo! Keep up the good work. In this discussion, let’s not forget about all that freeware that’s out there that lets you target web sites and extract all the emails on them. I don’t really understand how they do that, and I assume it’s pure black hat, but I think we need to be aware of them.

  10. Beware of “generic” replies to ads posted on sites like CraigsList. Spammer generate “automated replies” to CraigsList ads to work around CraigsList “redirection” machanism. Then when YOU reply, they get your eMail address. (In this respect, systems like Kijiji.Com’s, which have a graphic responders must decode to reply, are MUCH better.) By “generic replies” I mean those that SHOW the responder did not necessarily read your ad, such as those refering to “your item” and questions whose answer is part of the ad, such as “How can I contact you?” And there are plenty of TOTALLY USELESS ones like “Why are you selling so cheap?”, “I want it”, “I’ll take it”, etc.
    You can also help the fight by REPORTING spam. Most major eMail services have addresses to do so, most notably Abuse@Aim.Com, TOSEmail1@AOL.Com, Report_Spam@HotMail.Com, report_spam@msn.com, network-abuse@cc.yahoo-inc.com.
    That will catch lesser offenders, like those who respond to every ad for something with some std reply and their phone and wait for you to call THEM. The worst offenders do not use the above mentioned services and that is where SpamCop.Com kicks in. You paste the spam message WITH FULL HEADERS and SpamCop.Com figures out from where it came and to whom to report it. I know it works because SpamCop.Com shows you the address to where it will send the spam report and I see that the IPS’s being used by specific offenders change over time. This means that the spammers are getting axed and they are moving on to another ISP.

  11. This article is incorrect or outdated as until I delete a number of temp folder’s files (after porn surfing), then delete browsing history and also perform a disc clean, I will assurededly get porn spam because those sites have means to get email addresses (and do so w-o permission).

    For the record, I disagree.

    Leo
    05-Jun-2010

  12. Okay, but what if I find an email sent to my husband from a peticular porn site that says he’s been on the site and that it looks like he is interested in becoming a member. They even had his first and last names and offered him a monthly subscription. Does this mean he’s been surfing porn? Or could it be that he’s visited a site, given his name and email address, and they got ahold of it?

    It could also be completely random, it could be a spammer that got his name and email by harvesting public information … heck it could be drinking buddies playing a trick on him. No way to know.

    Leo
    22-Jul-2010

  13. My boyfriend use to watch porn, we have had several discussions on how I dont care for it, he agreed that he would not do that any more, that was over a year ago, but it still gets sent to his email. Is there a way we can stop it? Or try?

    Receiving porn in email usually has nothing to do with having watched porn in the past. Porn spam is everywhere. Treat it like any other form of spam.

    Leo
    04-Oct-2011

  14. I have responded to Craigslist personals a few years ago, but will receive random responses from time to time. How can I get this to stop, I can’t find any help on CL site itself.

  15. I saw the history on my boyfriends computer and it was to a porn sight. There was a created user name and password he was not a paying member and when clicking apon the link of “emails” that looked like they were sent to him nothing came up He’s trying to say the sight generated this by itself.. Lie, I assume?

  16. No. Ever since I got an email address (20 years ago) I have always got disgusting emails about penis enlargement, Viagra, 1 dollar hoes and I’m a woman! I have always blocked every e mail, my junk box is always full of them. Irritating but ignorable. It doesn’t mean the person is addicted to porn.

  17. My husband got a text message from flirt.com and he claims he doesn’t know anything about it. He is usually on the net when everyone is asleep! Claims it’s all innocent.

    • Same here, my husband gets text messages from porn sites every week, he’s adamant he’s not been on any, so how have they got his mobile number ??

      • As I said in my previous comment to “does getting porn spam mean that you’ve been surfing porn sites?.” Very often this kind of thing is just normal unsolicited spam.

        • Spammers have programs which generate random email addresses and phone numbers and send out millions of messages. When they hit a valid address or phone number, the message gets through.

  18. Thank you for this article! My girlfriend thought I was looking at porn sites because all of a sudden I started receiving a tonne of penis enlargement spam. I also get even more for medications of Rolex watches and I’m sure as heck not surfing for that stuff either. My e-mail address was relatively spam-free until a couple of months ago. Now I am getting junk every day and I have no idea why.

  19. My partner received an email with a link to a porn hook up site. The email was sent to and from the same email address? Is this possible it’s a scam or would it be possible he has made up a fake email address?

  20. Spam using my Partner’s email address in sort of gay things. Every time he says his name to people, they have this insulting smile with their faces. We would like to know why people were so angry with him every time they received the email that comes from him. Although he did not sent any of those emails. We ‘d like to know what is in the email. Can you help us please. My partner name is Rudolf Blaha and he was so devastated with those spam emails. Spams ruined his name and his reputation. Every country he visited they already knows him and the spams. I have no idea how it so fast reached to other countries. We really want to know. Can you help us? Thank you.

  21. Hi my partner gets alot of spam thats cool, but i have been reading emails he has been getting saying thanks for the reply,when i look at the email there is an original message under the email that says it was sent from my partner then it shows what was said is this spam or him actually replying ..confused

  22. My partner gets emails … Ex: stacked blonde unlocked her profile for you to have full access to ? And it’s a hook up site . Is this spam does this mean he is on local hook up sites ?

    • They ALL lie about porn. It’s not possible, he had to have given his number out SOMEWHERE which was related meaning he either DID sign up and give his # thinking it was a one-time deal and it wasn’t or a similar company sold his number to a list of similar interest sites. Its not a fluke! If it was the. Why don’t you get them? Why only him?

      And to the author, its not quite true, “random” emails don’t usually receive porn or dating site spam unless somewhere along the way it was added to a list of email addresses who have an interest in such sites. In other words if i visit a dating site named dateme.Com & provide my email adress or not even provide it. it will likely be sold on a list of interest based email adresses.
      Also, if you read Google’s privacy policy you will notice ads are based on users interests and there is absolutely a correlation between the spam emails we receive and the sites we visit as well as what type of other emails we receive.

      If it was true, what the author is trying to sell you, then you too ( wife, girlfriend, 8 year old child ) would too, be receiving the same types of spam. Why is it that these women who are concerned are not “randomly” receiving such spam?
      Ladies, test it yourself go on a disgusting porn or dating site sign up, wait a few days or a couple weeks and watch the plethora of “spam” enails you get which are porn or dating sites. Even AFTER you’ve deleted that original sign up. Your spam box will begin to resemble your “mr innocent’s” ” im a spam victim”‘s spam box.

      I suggest you use an email address you create just for testing cuz once you’re on the perv list…

      • There are four possible situations:

        Never visited a porn site, not getting porn spam Never visited a porn site, ARE getting porn spam
        Have visited a porn site, not getting porn spam Have visited a porn site, ARE getting porn spam

        All four possibilities can and do happen.

        This means that you cannot use any one to be any kind of reliable indicator of the other. Period.

        Clearly, you feel otherwise, and that’s fine. I’m leaving this comment up since I have no problem with disagreement and alternate opinions. But I am deleting the other five comments that essentially say exactly the same thing, while railing against men in general.

  23. All the information needed is on the article you commented on. In other words, there is little you can do but mark as spam, and delete.

  24. I have been getting spam, stating it is from “the largest xxx club”. Something like that. And that I am a member or have been at some point. Not the case.
    It also says, f***k buddies and meet hot MILF’s. then 2 emails, like it was from an actual person. One says, hey guys, there’s a slut on this sight, who you can f***k every night, someone just like you! It was very demeaning.
    Someone mentioned ” it could be drinking buddies messing with him!”
    I don’t get why someone would do that!
    My husband, who passed away 2 1/2 yrs ago, did go on sites and was a member. I was not. But this just started approximately, Last month.
    A few months ago. I did receive an email from my deceased husband email. That was a trip!! Nothing sexual but I did open the email and also the one recently. But I did not respond.
    I did go to a relationship advice site. I did give my email and accept the newsletter. I have deleted that. What is going on???

    • All of that is typical of normal spam. You don’t have to do anything to get it, and even the email which supposedly came form your deceased husbands email can just simply be someone faking his address.

  25. Some days my bf will get maybe one or 2 porn related spam mails… The next (and it seems as though it’s when he isn’t with his kids or I), he gets upwards of 5-7.
    Is this just coincidence or should I continue to wonder if the cat plays when the mouse is away?

    S

    • This guy is completely full of ***, if you want to know the answer to this question, you have to create a fake account and then go visit sites and sign up for newsletters! Then go visit porn sites, seedy chat websites, hook up cheating websites, married hookup cheating/chatting websites and see how much porn emails you start getting! I know, I did this to see if my husband was poor and innocent! Hell no, you go to those websites you get INUNDATED/BOMBARDED/OVERWHELMED, with sex this, sex that, meet me this, meet me that! Guess what the many, many sites I surfed that were just shopping, gossip, news, yeah you get some but nothing like you do when you search out sex and all the sin that tags behind it! Don’t let some man, who knows he’s full of *** convince you! Go with common sense and your gut, ladies!

      • My 85 year old mother gets tons of porn spam. She can’t even stand to look at her email account. I can assure you that she has not visited porn sites, or signed up for any newsletters.

      • My boyfriend says he isn’t cheating.. I went in his phone and woman are sending him emails and pictures and he says it’s spam!!

          • I know people that do porn, but NEVER give their eMail, and they get porn mail in gmail google hangouts, like: hey, wanna lick soon, click here to lick fresh!
            the friend of mine gets lots of those daily, like he is being targeted!

      • Yes yes yes my fiance has dozen of porn site emails from all sorts of seedy sites he says it’s not him but it’s addresses to his email address.

          • There has been so many porn emails in my spam and I found out my husband has been watching porn video clips for years. He had been deleting it in his history so I never knew it until he forgot one and I saw it come up on his phone when I opened the browser. He promised he would NEVER do it again! I checked his phone history about 3 weeks later and there was a porn site there. He swears he doesn’t do it!
            It would not be there if he hadn’t visited it again right? Is there any way I can find where he has been on his phone even if he deleted it in the history?

      • You’re the one full of it darling. Those cheating/sex emails are 100% spam! Some of the emails even have it in the small, fine print at the bottom of the page. It clearly tells you that the pic you’re looking at is not someone with an active profile, that the site is for fantasy only. A lot of them have similar wotding. There are clear indicators that it’s Spam without even having to open it. Most of those dating/porn ones come from fake accounts, therefore cannot be responded to and cannot be blocked. If it were an actual person, you wouldn’t see 2 completely different domain names when you “view details” of questionable mail.
        If you click on the sender, allow the chat window to open and go to settings from that senders chatbox and still cannot block/reply, its all fake.

    • with yahoo you never even have to have the word ‘porn’ in your reality. they just send it.
      I got 186 yesterday, and that is no typo error ! and I have never been on a porn or sex site due to warnings about spam.
      did you know : when you contact
      customercare-en@cc.yahoo-inc.com
      customercare@cc.yahoo-inc.com
      it will bounce and you never get a reply. and that has been from 4 years of emailing them.
      last email I sent them said – if you do not stop it you are admitting by no reply to me that you endorse it. next day : no reply (or even months later due to many other complaints) instead yahoo porn email sent to me = tripled. and it is arriving in my inbox 5 an hour.
      I have even sent yahoo the ‘raw message’ so they have all the details and still no answer from them, not even a thank you or stopping yahoo emailers sending it.
      Yahoo’s options in ‘settings’ to block words, email addresses, domains, come up with the following message : website and/or email not recognised or try again we are unable to block the sender.
      This is yahoo’s own stuff, so it either doesn’t exist or doesn’t work. Or maybe both ! fact is yahoo are allowing it so their hands are dirty.
      If I could get hold of the home address of the president of yahoo I would print it all off and post it to them marked : return to sender ! Why because the shyte was delivered to me by yahoo !
      Only way to beat the excuses after excuses re yahoo is : CLOSE YOUR EMAIL DOWN, when they have nobody to send it to they will go at-se over t, as they say. Then they will learn
      Is there a safe way to sort email out ? Yes
      You have to log your address/phone number/ passport/driving license/health number and bank details with every email address you set up and you have to pay monthly to use the email. That would stop it because you need to be a genuine person to hold all of the requirements and then you are traceable. The IP address is out of date due to Wi-Fi.
      If people want to stop it then people need to insist on accountability, and that means if you have nothing to hide you will have no problems in setting a true account up that assigns you to it.

      • What you are receiving is normal everyday spam. Yahoo doesn’t send porn spam or any other spam for that matter. For some reason, mostly because of their ubiquity, email providers like Yahoo and Hotmail seem to b a greater target for spam than less known providers. Mark those emails as spam, and Yahoo’s spam filter should eventually learn to recognize this kinds of emails as spam and send them to the spam folder.

  26. My Sister and my Son are getting pornographic material shared onto their Facebook page, supposedly by me. I would never share porn with my Son, or my Sister. It has become very stressful for me, as a Parent. What can I do? The pages in question all have Adult Humor in the page title. I have complained to Facebook and got rubbish back from them. Where do I go from here?

    • It sounds like your account may have been hacked. Most of the advice in this article also aplies to Facebook accounts.
      Email Hacked? 7 Things You Need to do NOW

      Another possibility could be that someone created an account in your name and is posting as you. If that’s the case you can ask your son and sister to block that user. You should be able to tell if it’s a counterfeit by looking at that Facebook page to see if it is yours or not.

  27. Hi,

    Could someone that you know send you all kinds of ‘phony’ porn email? I have been all of a sudden getting all sorts of stupid sounding porn email in my junk folder along with silly sounding sender names. They all look sort of alike, if that means anything. For some reason, I do not think that they even contain real porn. If someone was mad at or displeased with me, could they make up all of those sender addresses and send them to me, because they simply want to bother me?

    I hope that you can answer my question Leo.

    Thank you

  28. Just to add to my question / comment…

    The emails in question started right after I had had ‘words’ with someone via our emails a couple of months ago. The phony looking porn emails started showing up in my junk folder daily ever since. last week, this person went away for 7 days. I did not receive ANY of these emails while this person was away. Bear in mind, he has a laptop and a phone with access to the internet, however, he was probably too busy to bother me with said emails. He got back two days ago, and guess what? The emails started again the very next morning after he returned.

    Coincidence? That’s is some damned coincidences if it is one…just sayin’

    BTW…this person is a narcissistic sociopath for certain. He was diagnosed when he was young…

      • Thank you for replying. I wish there was a definitive way to prove what I think is happening.

        It really matters that I can prove this.

        I’m not that computer savvy…I am not even entirely sure what an IP address means…internet provider I know…but how does one find out where these made up email addresses are coming from??

        Cheers, and thank you…I appreciate it:)

  29. If you get spam from hook up sites with messages claiming to be from someone saying hi etc does that mean you have to of Been looking them sites up?

  30. I found emails in my husbands account from girl talking about them liking his profile….he said thats regular spam profile? Doesn’t that mean he had to sign up or register for something?
    Please i need to kno if hes lying

    • Leo’s article is pretty clear about the answer to your question. In other words, there is really no way to tell one way or the other.

  31. So my question is a little out of the ordinary and can’t find much answers on this type of thing when I search the web. My husband’s sent box has like two emails to craigslist personals same date around same time, with responses back and forth but don’t look like their really going anywhere and very short phrases, if that makes sense. He says he has never seen them and for sure didn’t write them, he has nothing in his inbox and isn’t receiving any stuff like it. Is it even possible that it’s spam of some kind?? I always think spam like trying to get your billing info not like this.

  32. Hi,
    I have a question, that has been bugging me for very long. My partner regularly receives spam. fine. However, there were mails now from 2 websites, that claim that he has a profile there, and people looked at it (hooking up websites).
    When I clicked on the link it showed he has a profile there. However, he claims, that he has never signed up on these sides.
    Can profiles can be created with your email without your actual interference? Or could it also be that, since I clicked on the link that profile was automatically created?
    I am desperately awaiting your reply
    Thanks a lot

  33. İm with Frusterated Wonder. My recently husband has an İ phone so google+doesnt come standard, but he has a gmail account. Recently he received an email for a hook up sight explicitly for sex with no strings attached. He claims that He has no google+ account and that this email to his google account is spam. İs this possible?

    • That sounds like normal spam. Those are sent to millions of random email addresses at a time. You don’t have to ask for those emails to get them.

  34. I found some instahookup request thing that leads to a site called easysex.com on my wife’s phone. Not her email, it was an automated message sent to her phone. How do you explain that one?

  35. Is there any way that you can prevent adult oriented spam from showing up in your e-mail account? I’ve been getting TONS of spam from some group or site called Adult Dating, plus alot of male-oriented adult spam, and I’m not even a guy! I’m a 44 year old WOMAN, and I get this smut! I think the people sending this garbage think that I’m a man because my e-mail address has “cherrycharm” in it, and that the senders are interpreting that as a sex reference (slang for a hymen)when it isn’t (cherries are my favorite fruit, and charm refers to magic charms and the fact that I’m a Wiccan). And my Yahoo profile clearly states that I’m a woman, so it’s obvious they don’t even bother to read my profile before they send their smut.

  36. My husband was alereted, by his server that his ebay, paypal and another account had be jeopardized.. He then started getting rank spam emails. He said he had been hacked. When someone hacks you, can they also take your photos and make a profile for you on a website? It was sent out to people in his address book and also our daughter. Can this happen?

  37. Hi, I found an email in my husbands inbox confirming his login for a cheating site ({removed}.com). I clicked on the link and went to his ‘profile’ and they had his details such as height, eye and hair color and physic almost spot on. He claims it was spam. Is this possible?

    • It is possible for hackers to do something like that – though also likely that it’s not spam. Unfortunately you are not going to get the answer to this question on the internet. The resolution will have to be between you and your husband.

  38. Is there a difference in the spam’s content when it’s only a solitictation verses actual proof of involvement. Fir example, my husband had spam with young girls barely dressed and it was just one picture. But then there was on email where there were many pictures of one Girl and it seemed to be time lapsed photos of her undressing. There also appeared to be a Re: nice ones message attached as if my husband relied. Thank you for any clarity you can provide.

    • The “Re:” is no indication of it being a response to an email or any request. I’ve received a lot of spam withe a “Re:” in the subject line. “Re:” is usually placed before the subject by an email program when responding to an email, but it’s just as easy to manually include or delete it. Many spammers put it in to trick the receiver into reading it. There’s no sure fire way of determining whether or not it is plain spam or not.

    • I have never been on a born site or cheated but about two months ago I was looking on craigslist for some furniture and I sent a message to several posters who had pieces I was interested in. I gave out my phone number and email address asking them if they still had the piece and to please contact me……..and ever since then my email box gets stuffed daily with stuff like; hey cutie, I want you now, hey babe, I want to suck your big c*ck, ect. So what Leo is saying is true, but its also possible if you have ever contacted anyone on craigslist to “buy something” spammers or scanners using that sight got your information and may have sold it or passed it on to more spammers/ spammers.

  39. One other caution. Some Spam messages/emails include a link at the bottom to unsubscribe to their mailings and newsletters. Be very careful!! I clicked on the links to unsubscribe (the site it takes u to asks for your email address so you can b removed from their mailing list) only to suddenly see a large increase in Spam in coming weeks. I eventually had to get a new email address as the spam was from all directions. I’m almost certain it was from these fraudulent unsubscribe lists.

  40. I’m an elderly grandmother, & I receive porn spam. Never been to their websites, never signed up for anything, but I often get spam emails telling me, “I’ve seen your photo & you’re a really hot man. Etc.,etc.,etc….

  41. Getting adult-oriented e-mails definitely does NOT indicate that you have been going on porn or adult sites. I get literally TONS of adult, male-oriented spam from porn sites and adult dating sites, and not only do I NOT visit those kind of sites (I have zero interest in porn), I’m not even a man, I’m a woman! I even get contacted by these people on my social networking sites! I think the people who are sending me these e-mails or contacting me on my social networking accounts found my e-mail address somewhere (where, I don’t know: none of the people who contact me will answer that question) and are assuming that the “cherrycharm” part of my e-mail address is a sexual reference to a woman’s hymen, but in this case, it isn’t. Cherries are my favorite fruit, and “charm” refers to magick charms, and the fact that I’m a Wiccan. What astounds me is that these spammers never read my online profiles before contacting me. All of my online profiles clearly state that I’m a woman.

    • My suggestion is to never try to contact the spammers. All that does is prove to them they that you are an actual person who reads the email. Just puts you on more lists.

  42. My boyfriend gets lots of spam that we used to fight over because the sender made it seem like he had replied to them previously. Through much digging, I found that not to be true but today I found an email in his box that said, “your subscription to “sexy booty girls” has been confirmed.” “You will start receiving notifications for sexy booty girls on google +. You can change these settings at any time.” He says he didn’t sign up for anything but can these sites automatically just sign you up to their site or does that have to be done manually? I believe he had to go to the site to subscribe but I’m asking for clarity before I jump down his throat and continue to think he’s playing me for stupid.

    • They could do it without asking. They could also make spam look like a fake welcome message. Then when he “unsubscribes” they know they have a live one and can start spamming him even more.

      Or he could have done it himself. These messages are not evidence one way or another.

  43. My boyfriend gets those emails and yes I get they are spam. I’m trying to find info as to if you don’t look at porn now but have in the past can it still randomly pop up as a search? Like it hasn’t been looked at since August of last year but now all of the sudden the websites are starting to be on the phone under the history tabs, can this be any form of spam or something?

  44. Hi I am getting these emails constantly and I am getting told that people want to meet me and want to hookup but yet I never been on these dating sites nor porn sites…My wife thinks I’m cheating when I’m really not

    • That depends on your spam filter. With some, it would go to junk. With others, it wouldn’t. Repeatedly marking those as spam would help teach the filter to recognize them as spam.

  45. I haven’t been receiving emails but I am getting overloaded with constant ads on my phone displaying explicit “chat” sites and other various spammed ads. it happens no matter what app I am using and I am not sure what to do

  46. I have recently started getting porn mail and random emails asking how to contact me…. It’s kinda scary since my name is a unique one, seeing so much spam with my name is making me worried. I got porn mail from older women asking if i wanna f### and saying that I’m a hot guy…. I’m a 13 year old heterosexual GIRL who has no interest in porn or emailing random women…. And I never even signed up for that crap!
    Should i move to a new email address?

  47. Cannot believe how many females are attacking a perfectly accurate article. I know for a fact that 99% of the dating/pork emails that make their way to my and my hubby’s inbox are completely FAKE!
    SOME of them even have it in the fine print at the bottom of the actual emails. It’ll say that the profiles aren’t necessarily real and that this is “Just for fantasy”
    I’ve seen a few of you “ladies” get straight up nasty with Leo over YOUR inability to trust YOUR boyfriend/husband/partner simply because he received a fake message from a robot.
    Way to keep it classy…
    Way to go…

  48. Hi Leo,
    My fiancee found some porn spam email on my phone. One indicates that I joined AdultSexMeet and that wants me to confirm my membership account number. The other one is a two part email from “Victoria” stating she lives near me and wants to meet, followed up by why did you block me email. Obviously my fiancee is concerned that I am cheating on her, which I am not, but she does not believe that these emails would have been sent to me if I hadn’t sent a request to join. I read the article you wrote “Does getting porn spam…” and the related comments and the your responses. More than anything, I want her to know that I was truthful in answering her questions. Does a email membership number from AdultSexMeet require someone to actually request it, and how frequent is the “Victoria” type of email used by spammers?
    A heart broken reader,
    Mike

  49. Is there something on my computer that could be influencing the spam I get? I’ve been getting questionable spam in my personal email. Here’s the kicker: I recently used my laptop with the work email and now that email is getting the same spam my person email is getting. And I’m not sure why that is.

    • It’s possible that some characteristics of using your computer elsewhere may have triggered different spam, but it’s not ON your computer, it’s a side effect of spammers noticing that, perhaps, you were at the same IP address as this other person. Mark it as spam and move on.

  50. I use hotmail mainly and until last July I got lots of spam all of which I blocked. Last July on holiday I used my ipad and did not try to block the spam and since then most of the stuff in my spam folder is misplaced genuine emails. It seems when I ignore the spammers the message gets around I am no longer here.

  51. My husband does look at porn and I’m very familiar with the normal spam. However today I found a couple a little different. They are all from either {email address removed} or {email address removed}. One of the messages was from Morgan and it said “just wanted to say hi” at the top. Then the message says “hey, I’ve been trying to reach you but your phone isn’t working. Not sure if you wanted to see me again but I had fun last time :)” . Now this doesn’t seem like the rest,, am I right or just paranoid? Trust me, I know I’ve seen a lot of their tricks to get you to click on it but not this one!! Also a little while back I found one that said ” Stop sending me pictures of you” .. First time for that one too. I know the tactic is to get you to click and for a jealous wife.. well… That would definitely work. I could see any wife clicking on those just to get to the bottom of it. I have restrained myself.. But I feel like I need to. These are just too personal and way different from the others. What do you think?? Help! Please!!

  52. Hi Leo. I’ve just come across your forum today after what can only be described as a nightmare. My wife found these porn emails on my phone over the weekend and is ready to hang me and doesn’t believe a word. I don’t look at porn but have obviously signed up for something over the 25 years I’ve had my email account. I get all sorts, jobs, drugs, bitcoin etc etc. but the last few days a lot of adult emails. I am trying to defend myself against something that I haven’t done or can’t fully explain. I understand the spam email but like she says”well I don’t get any”. This is the most frustrating experience I have ever dealt with. Her first husband was well into porn sites and other things so they obviously divorced because of the secretive and weird stuff that ensued. So I understand how sensitive she is to this yet I am a layman when it comes to explaining the filth that gets through. I have now deleted all my email accounts from my phone and will now need to visit work more regularly to receive them. I don’t get any of these emails on my desktop but my iPhone would get maybe 3 a day and a porn email every couple of days. So I don’t care about losing my emails on the phone. A small price to pay really. And why bring work home anyway. Any comments greatly appreciated. I will put an email address on but won’t get it!!! Thanks Leo.

  53. Is there a way to check the source of spam email? I always gat spam mails for dating, finding perfect female partner and i am a woman! I really dont get it why i am getting those spam mails and wonder if i can find out the source of all this. Thank you.

    • Generally the answer is no. Spammers use many techniques to hide their true origins. (For example botnets are one way to “farm out” the work to millions of computers belonging to unsuspecting users.)

    • It’s just normal randomly sent spam. They have no idea who you are. And there’s noway to trace the source of spam.

  54. Thank you for this comment. I recently saw lots of sex with strangers emails on my boyfriend’s computer when he had accidentally left his emails open when I went to log on to mine. I have been going crazy thinking all sorts. He said he has done nothing and didn’t know how they got there. Thank you for putting my mind at rest.

  55. I hear you Simone. I’m a 47 year old woman whose never been on any adult sites, yet I get TONS of e-mails from male-oriented adult sites or from people on those sites who think I’m a man for some strange reason! If they bothered to read my Yahoo profile, they would know I’m a woman, but they never do read my profile.

    • They don’t know you, they don’t know anything about you, and they don’t care to. They have an email address, and that’s all. As I state in the article, they send this spam to everyone without regard to who they are. Sending spam is cheap. Enough of those that fit the profile of what they’re looking for, of who they’re selling to, bite and that makes it worthwhile to the spammer. That’s why there’s so much spam — in short: it works.

  56. I keep getting what looks like girls or women asking to be with you but it turns out to be a site to hook up with someone with benefits. But at the bottom of the page is an address: Network Services from Belize City, Belize, with an unsubscribe button which I use but it doesn’t seem to cut down on the e-mails which by the way is always in the trash on G Mail.

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