1. Don Davis

    After a 35yr career in law enforcement I can assure you that a very large percentage of our population only repect personal rights when they are their own. Many feel if they are the first to complain society should take their side against the other party. Many expect others, including the police, to commit criminal acts because they ask them to. Few even consider out laws and instututions should protect and serve every member not just a select few. One cynical old man.

  2. mroonie

    Haha…this is hilarious…

    Don’t worry Leo, you aren’t a Dr. Phil but well said. I agree with you whole heartedly.

    This post reminds me of the HP Dunn scandal.
    Although she wasn’t going to misuse the information, her tactics in acquiring the data and accessing it was a big no-no….

    Honestly, people don’t seem to be aware of how easy it is to track online activities. I for one hate it when people snoop around in my business so I always make sure to protect myself. This includes encrypting sensitive documents that are stored on my computer, in motion through email, or being used by others. That doesn’t mean I do bad things and then cover my tracks. I have nothing to hide. But for those of us who lack common sense about one’s privacy, I don’t want to be one who falls victim to such people. Whoever thinks that accessing someone’s password isn’t a breach on privacy are missing a few marbles….

  3. Marc

    I am a retired Attorney, and forensic criminalist. It is , on all counts, a felony. More then 1 felony, if prosecuted. and for sure they know that someone was there, maybe they think it was your sig. other. But they know someone was logged in.

    • Wren

      My soon to be ex husband has hacked into my FB account and has deleted most of my account activity. I’ve changed my password and email address and he is immediately on there again deleting my content. Someone told me the only way he can be getting on there that quickly is if he’s using the spyware keylogger. So everything i type he knows. Text messages. Phone contact’s and I know he can hear my conversations and see pictures I take with this software. My question to you is , how do I prove it and how much trouble can he get into for hacking into all my private accounts and conversations?
      Thank you.

  4. Carl

    Please ignore these types of questions Leo. I want a computer newsletter. I DON’T want to read about some “slug’s” soap opera. Thanks!

  5. Martin

    In one way I agree with Carl…this is a computer newsletter. But, this topic/problem seems to be universal.
    ….my wife knows what I do online anyway.

    We have a pair of 16 yr-old girls. There is no way I apologize for reading what they get via our ISP mail service. They don’t even know their own password(s). I choose them and change them often, which is the price they pay for using OUR computer….and online access.

    I don’t even bother with their hotmail or Yahoo accounts. Sorta figure if they let 94 million! other people have access to their MySpace mail, why should I? Nor should I have misgivings for reading their mail.

  6. Rodney

    I agree with Carl, Nor do i want to read about someone’s personal “drama’s” , and i do agree with leo, If you do something like that, Then yes , you do deserve to get into trouble, it is extrememly lame and pathetic.

    Seems to me the majority of you people who are asking ” how can i hack my bf/gf e-mail” are either seeking attention, like talking about the drama in your life ( Which not everyone wants to hear), want sympathy from others.

    Karma – “deed or act;” more broadly describing the principle of cause and effect


  7. niles schwartz

    i am in the early stages of a divorce and my wife’s attorney submitted hard copy of my personal email account. in other words, she hacked into my email. we have been legally seperated since 10/06 and the email she produced today (6/7/07)was dated april ’07. can she do this? if not, is this a civil or criminal issue? if you can not help, do you know of a good resource?

  8. Leo A. Notenboom

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    I’mm not a lawyer, and that’s exactly who you should be speaking to. Since
    you’re in process on your divorce, I’d start with your attorney.

    Version: GnuPG v1.4.6 (MingW32)


  9. Donna

    Just a quick note. I too experienced a cheating boyfriend who would register his name and profile on various site (the cheap buggar only went on free sites, of course.) I finally figured out his password for his email and kept account of his messages to and from women (one particular women, Michelle, he’s living with now, who cheated on her live-in boyfriend to be with him at the time he was seeing me…he wrote he’d like to do her in a hot tub, and she responded in kind). One even came from a husband of one of the women! (he got angry that Bob sent a naughty message and warned him to not even try to communicate again.) I finally approached him…the guilt and the pain were too much to bear. Instead of acknowledging his wrongdoings, he actually told the issue was mine, “trust”, and the lack of it. What a wanker! I finally caught him in the act after his son ratted on him. He got so mad, he kicked his son out of the house for three days and screamed on the phone to me for one hour. I say, you did what you suspected was correct, and you now know this man is not fit for you. I spent four years being abused by him, and his philandering cost me my confidence and affected how I deal with other men. Grab some pride and kick him out. Let him have the women he wants…they just won’t be you. Put out there that you deserve a better man, and the universe will provide it. Healing takes time too, so be gentle with yourself.

    Take care and good luck,


  10. Ilahna

    I agree with Donna, if you suspect your partner of going behind your back in any shape or form and destroying your soul basically, why the hell shouldn’t you try and confirm your suspictions. In those circumstances, legallity can kiss my arse, I’ll hack, find out and depending on the outcome I will always confront in relation to what I will find. BTW I have always been upfront about my hacking capabilities to boyfriends and they get warned plus I will always ask first if they’re hiding something.

    I found out my ex husband had slept with a number of men this way – go figure!

  11. Hollie

    I agree with Donna and Ilahna completely. Especially if you are married. You really aren’t legally allowed any secrets when you are married. During a divorce you can serve discovery if you feel that your spouse is keeping things secret and you can subpoena bank accounts, email accounts, anything. So the whole official response to the initial question was complete BS and I agree – it must have been posted by a cheater. I feel bad the person was even worried about getting in trouble for guessing her man’s password. I call that genius! :-)

  12. Gloria Robinson

    I believe my daughter knows my password to my email account. I was upset and expressing my upset to a friend. who my daughter doesn’t know. my daughter seems angry at me so I think she snooped into my email I would like to know if I can find out if and when she did. Can I do this myself?

  13. Maureen

    My mother has an email account. But it appears that information and settings keep being changed on her: emails deleted. What can she do to regain all of this lost information? Stop someone who is doing this? Or find out who is doing this? She would like her privacy back.

  14. Joe Lia

    Folks get a grip. If you spouce, boyfriend or girl friend is cheating on you. You have every right to know. When you take a step back and figure they could give you a deadly disease. Do what ever it takes to find out and put an end to your relationship. There are stealthy programs to help with this. Very good ones as well. I know I used it and found all i needed to know in just 1 evening. Forget the expensive private investigator. These programs are cheaper and get the job done better.

  15. Sophie

    Wow, a lot of the women have issues. If you suspect your boyfriend or husband is cheating the best thing to do is confront him, leave him or get counseling. Trust me once he finds out that you hacked his computer. He won’t trust you
    anymore even if you find out in fact he is cheating. The relationship will be over.

  16. Tara

    Hey Sophie,
    If you find out he is cheating, who cares if he trusts you???? Like you said the relationship will be over so what does it matter if he does or doesn’t trust you? You wouldn’t be doing something like that if he wasn’t going behind your back in the first place!! If someone is cheating on me and wants to deny it, I’m going to do anything in my power to find the truth. That’s putting my health into his hands and being careless with it. If he’s got someone on the side, there’s no telling how many that person has on the side, and so on….

  17. karl

    Well I agree with you guys about figuring out if the person Is cheating . But what if the gf/bf hack into the account and finds nothing irrelevant such as a couple of emails from other females or males? Is the considrered cheating? Or may I ask. Is flurting such as sending friendly emails considered an act of cheating on another?

    Hacking is bad, no matter what the reason. Period. As for the rest – I’m a computer geek. You don’t ask computer geeks for relationship advice.

    – Leo
  18. Kathy

    My email address was hacked into by my bosses girlfriend I was looking for a place for myself and had some house appointments in my in box. She accused him of going to move in with me. She is a complete psycho I have no interest at all in my boss as I am attracted to the opposite sex. Not only this she has invaded my privacy by going into the work account and reading personal emails from my solicitor to me. She is continually harassing me and she said to my face

  19. Larry

    Kathy… Report it!!! The laws are gray when it comes to bf/gf h/w if hacked computer if live in same house with shared access to computer. Expectation of privacy is… not yet defined. However, work computers and work emails are definately off limits and it is highly illegal to hack work stations or email.

  20. Jamie

    This is ridiculous. How would you feel if someone hacked into your account? True people say we have the right to know blah blah blah. But by hacking into emails and facebook account even mere guessing the password correctly, it crossed the line and is against the law. It’s called abuse of technology. It’s equivalent to opening someone else’s mail. Nevertheless, in spite of the excuses about having the right to know, hacking is AGAINST THE LAW and don’t be surprised if the law doesn’t take the side of the hacker.
    Let’s say because your loved one is in Iraq, you are so paranoid that you somehow hacked into the US military database to see where he or she is. Now how would the government respond to this digital trespass?

  21. good thinker

    Yes, this is wrong that anyone hack into someone’s personal privacy. Now!! i am thinking why god help human being to think for hacking.

  22. BKP

    I would have to agree….MY LIFE is in my partners hands! If one was to even think about hacking into an email address then there is obviously a lack of trust anyways! lets say….the so called “hacker” had already confronted their mate and they have a very bad feeling that the confrontation was not truthful? Does the hacker just say…”Okie Dokie”? I dont think so, I firmly believe that person has every right to know the TRUTH by whatever means necessary! To a certain extent though! Of course, you can not tie the person up and beat them til they break! But to look into your wifes email or say a cell phone? Perfectly OK! Like I said, there would have to have been a certain amount of NON-TRUST to begin with, So if the hacker didnt find anything during the “hack”. Then that trust level should come up a bit and that person could breathe a lil sigh of relief! BUT, 9 times out of 10, IF you think/believe your spouse is cheating? HE/SHE PROBABLY IS! The law would NEVER hold up for looking at your mates password protected cell phone NOR would it ever hold up for looking at your spouses personal emails!

  23. Long Dong

    I would say….It all depends on the relationship between the said couple. IF the relationship was within, lets say 1 year. The NO, they should NEVER look at a persons PRIVACY! BUT, on the other hand, IF the relationship was around 5+ years or longer, and a very committed relationship? I say HELL YES! That person has EVERY right possible to know who their partner is “possibly” sleeping around with! I say a 5+ yr or longer relationship, that is “supposed to be a committed and trusting relationship, then there should NOT be anything to hide! PERIOD! If there is something to hide then it is for a reason that cannot be good for the relationship! If the relationship was open, committed AND honest, then there is simply NOTHING that you wouldn’t want your mate to see that would be affecting the relationship! UNLESS…there IS infidelity! Its called CHEATING because the person doesn’t want to get caught….AND IT IS WRONG IN EVERY WAY! It outweighs looking at an EMAIL by TONS!

  24. matt

    Yes it’s illegal and unethical. Legally it’s a Federal Crime. You could be sued, and/or the person you hacked can report you to authorities and you would be arrested on grand theft as per the privacy act. The site can track you via ip address which is tracked by them the second your on the site, they do not need a court order to do it and it’s very easy for them since you used a user name that they can look up and see when you logged in. They can also alert the authorities who intern will track you ip address and arrest you. Most likely the site will make the user change his/her password or possibly delete the account. If that’s all that happens, count your self lucky and don’t do it again. Hacking is wrong, but the only people who are capable of it and not get caught are computer savy (techs and teens) people. You have to know how to not leave a trail, like set up gost computers which will bounce your ip to several different places (cities or countries).

  25. chmacka

    I don’t agree with hacking into anyones e-mail accounts (or hacking into somebody’s privacy), but I keep wondering, why are these people using passwords so easy that someone can access their e-mails by just guessing what the password is?

    Make yourself a system for creating passwords (e.g. every password contains some letters you choose and some numbers – which you will use for every password, then 3rd and 5th letter in the address of the site you’re registering at and 4th and 7th letter of you’re user name).

    Nobody can guess it and if you remember those random numbers and letters you will never forget your password – no matter how many sites you register at.

  26. BAHMAN

    You should have “DONE UNTO HIM BEFORE HE HAD A CHANCE TO DO UNTO YOU”. Had you done so, you wouldn’t have any reason to turn into a sneaky “HACKER”. All’s fair “IN LOVE and WAR” baby.

  27. nammy

    what if lets say you use like a service like Skydeck which is free and downloaded app on her phone to see if shes cheating by seeing her text and she is the account holder on cell phone service and have been living seprated for 4 months but still married and not legal seprated and are still involved in relationship together.Could you still get in trouble for that?

  28. nicole

    Bull. If you have probable cause you have the right to get solid proof for your own sanity. Not doing it is not “moral” as you say it. Anyways if the dude was trying to pick someone else up online when he already had something who cares he’s a loser move on. But really in a relationship there shouldn’t be any guessing of passwords. My SO and I know all each others passwords hell some are the same as each others. Get real in these days of mistrust it’s impossible not to snoop. End of story good bye.

  29. BoB

    I completely agree with the last comment.. and not everyone can afford a private detective.. and it is NOT JUST so easy.. to just end things and move on.. if you have no solid proof.. they will just deny it and you will look like the jealous bad guy to everyone.. and ps.. does sky deck really work? how much is it.. and do they have to know your using it???

  30. james

    I have a question, wich no one has really been able to awser for me. my wife and i are goign to be getting a divorce im in iraq and she keeps hacking by guessing my passwords and changing my passwords so i have a hard time going in and changing info like where money goes and all that. I have and am still trying to get with police to report these activities and it seems im getting no where. And yes now i have re done user names passwords and secret and pin’s all crazy ass # and letters that i had to write down cuase i wont ever rember all of them lol. But in KS the law stats that whats mine is hers and hers is mine, so she can’t steal from me money but hacking into my accounts for bank and the army online stuff is some how agist the law and they dont seem like they know what there doing or dont want to get involved wich is said since my taxes pay there asses lol. please any ideas would help.

  31. mandamay

    changing my email address cause can not access my old account.. cause my boyfriend is very smart when it comes to computers and he has put blocks on me on some parts of the net and he has parent control on me aswell not very happy he access everything i do and write hmmm who can i stop him PLEASE HELP….!!!!!!!!

  32. mac

    my ex out did all your ex’s by conveincing certain people she knows(that never met meet) that I was the one who was stalking her, how? very easy I trusted her with my computer/equipment/cable internet bill/my phone/my software/password book/ and other stuff. now microsoft thinks im running stolen software, the law enforcement folks think im a evil guy for hacking her accounts,phone carrier wont even think about tracking ware being on the 3G network,my 1500.00 computer is basically scrap because SHE registered it with my receit on my cell phone standing two feet away from me. Ive tried everything LEAGAL to regain whats mine but no one will listen. BTW her dad is IT @hospital,best friend IT @ dept of corrections and her son is a programer/gamer wanna be! tip is her distant cousin is a certain dutch computer guru(no name) who she proudly posted on facebook. goggle “royally screwed” and theres my picture.

  33. UnhackableHeart

    It depends on how tech saavy they are. Technically there are ways and tools to be able to do it, depending on the mail client being used (Yahoo vs Gmail). One example is tracking last IP login on gmail. shows how you can detect if someone has been reading your emails, so it might be worth checking out to see if you did some of the techniques mentioned there.

  34. Jordan

    I have to disagree with you there. In 90% of circumstances, you are correct, it is highly unethical to hack into a spouses account, but if that account is on a dating site, while I can’t really say it is. Then again, their presence on the site should be incriminating enough, without the need to “hack.”

  35. c.p.

    i have come to the belief that someone at “”is illegally hacking into my computer and making threats to me for watching free adult sites, even though that cable network promotes ,advertise and sells triple- xrated movies on tv and the internet. can i sue them and how ?

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