It can be extremely difficult to find the email address of someone you want to contact. To begin with, they must want to be found.
How do I find out my friend’s email address?
I’d like to get in touch with my old college roommate. How do I find out her email address?
I’m trying to get in touch with a business contact, but I’ve lost his email address. How can I find it again?
As you can tell, I often get variations of this question. Most people know someone and want to send them email, but they don’t have their email address. What do you do?
Well, I’ll be blunt. Nine times out of ten, you’re simply out of luck.
But sometimes, you can get lucky.
It won’t be easy
Finding someone’s email address is typically very, very hard for several reasons:
What’s worth trying?
My first reaction is almost always Google. For many people, Google might take you straight to them. For example at this writing, searching Google for me, Leo Notenboom, will get you six pages of results that are all right on target. If you’re looking for a different Leo Notenboom (I know of at at least two others), you’ll need to do more work.
Now, I have a relatively unique name and a very big “footprint” on the internet. If you’re looking for something more common (say “John Smith”), you have a lot of work ahead of you. You’ll need much more information to narrow down your search to exactly which John Smith you’re trying to locate. You could include anything from the city he lives in, the place he works, the school he went to … anything that might help narrow down the search. But even then, you’re unlikely to get the right person, unless they already have an internet presence and your information really matches well.
I have a case where I occasionally look for the best man at my wedding, whom I’ve lost contact with over the years. His name is somewhere in the middle – not as unique as mine, but certainly not as generic as “John Smith.” I have yet to find him. I keep finding people with the same names in other places but they are obviously not him.
Searching the services
If they want to be found, and you suspect that they have accounts with services like MSN, HotMail, Yahoo, Facebook, or others, it might be worth checking the member directories within those services if they have them. If their place of business has a directory, that might be worth a look. Similarly, if you have reason to believe that your contact might have joined any of the social networking sites, such as LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, or others, you might check there as well.
What’s important to note is that for member directories to work, the person must want to be found. Even if they have an account, they may elect to keep their information obfuscated or private and searching the directory will do you no good.
You can always try the phone book. All of the major phone companies have online phone books that include both the traditional white and yellow pages. You may not get an email address, but you may be able to locate your contact in the real world. Once again, if they’ve elected to have an unlisted number or they do not have a telephone of their own, you may be out of luck here as well.
And finally, there are for-pay services that claim to be able to find out all sorts of information about people. These are mostly culled from public records also accessible elsewhere. I’ve never used one and cannot recommend any specifically.
In a nutshell, I’ll reiterate: it’s often practically impossible to locate someone’s email address. You can get lucky, but it’s rare and can often require a fair amount of effort and legwork.
Important: Do NOT post comments to this article of the form with “I’m looking for some name‘s email address. Please help me.” Please read the article above. Posting people’s names and personal information here will not help and in fact, it violates the privacy of the person whom you’re trying to locate.