Boy, do I get this question a lot. Several times a day, in fact. And it’s
almost always in one of the following forms:
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And it’s almost always in regard to a free email or instant messaging
account.
Usually these questions are accompanied with dire pleas because all their
contact information is in the account, or there’s absolutely critical email
that they can’t get to, or some other life, career, or relationship-threatening
situation.
I get them over and over again, many times, every day.
There’s usually nothing anyone can do to help, but let’s walk
through the options you do have and how you can prevent the problem
in the first place.
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I’ve written about similar situations before in “
Someone has stolen my email account. What can I do to get it back?”
I’ll reiterate some of the points I made there.
One of the first things I recommend is to call your ISP customer
support immediately. Unfortunately that’s not an
option for free accounts, because as I’ve written about
elsewhere, there’s almost no customer
support available for free accounts. You’re on your own.
Try to reset your password. Usually that’s done by answering a
“secret question”. As you can tell by the examples, by the time people
come here, it’s often because they’ve forgotten the answer to their
secret question. If you’re on a free email service and there’s no customer
support, you’re pretty much screwed at this point.
Let me be extra clear on that point:
If you’re using a free email service such as Hotmail, and you forget or
lose both your password and the answer to your secret
question, you are screwed. There is no customer support to help you,
and I certainly have no way of helping you.
help… “
If you are paying for the account you’re having problems with, you
should, as I said, immediately contact customer support for
that service. If you’re paying for your account and there’s no
customer support, move your account elsewhere.
Before you abandon your account: do look to see if
others are having problems logging in. For example, the recent
upgrade to MSN Messenger has caused a lot of people problems. Most
often these problems are temporary, and resolve themselves after a
while. But once again, with the free services, you’re getting what you
paid for, and there may be no official communication relating to
service problems.
So how do you prevent this from happening in the future?
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And as always, scan for viruses and spyware regularly.
And finally, and again to be clear:
I cannot recover or change your password for you. I cannot email you
your password. I cannot reset your password or your secret question.
It’s simply not possible. Requests for me to do so will simply be
ignored.
If you’ve lost your password, you don’t remember your secret
question, and your service has no customer support – you’re done. Go
create a new account somewhere and hopefully learn from the
experience.
I don’t remember my password…… Can you please send it to my friends account. Im at his house so then i can get it. His email is madnessmadnesscombatcombat@hotmail.com. Thankyou
Sigh
How do I trace an IP to the exact user, not just the server. I’m getting some pretty nasty emails
Typically you cannot. You can try working with your ISP to analyse your email headers, but it’s often difficult to trace back to a person, or even a specific machine. It typically requires the cooperation of the *senders* ISP as well.
So to be extra clear:
I CANNOT GET YOUR PASSWORD BACK. PLEASE GO READ THE ARTICLE FOR THE ADVICE I HAVE TO OFFER.
17-Mar-2005