When I create a new message and start typing in the To line, Hotmail
suggests some email addresses that I know, but several that I donât know and â to be
honest â are very embarrassing as theyâre often adult in nature â sometimes VERY much so. It kind of implies that Iâve contacted these people before, but thereâs no
way!
Why are they showing, where did they come from, and most importantly,
how do I get rid of them?
Iâve heard this one a lot in recent months and I was never able to figure
out what was going on.
All of the credit for this goes to Elizabeth, one of my readers, who first asked the question; when I didnât know the answer, she came back to me a few days later with the explanation.
We now know where they came from, and even better, how to get rid of them
and make sure that they donât come back.
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Auto-complete
Auto-complete is pretty straightforward. When you type an email address or name into an address field as you compose a message, Hotmail automatically displays a list of addresses that are supposedly either in your address book or from people whom youâve corresponded with before.
The idea is that you can click on the entry that you want once you see it rather than typing out the rest of the email address.
Questionable auto-complete
Sometimes, you might find auto-complete suggestions that are troubling, to say the least:
Thatâs from my own Hotmail account, and I have no idea how it got there.
Honest.
And I can understand how some might find that embarrassing if someone were looking over your shoulder as youâre typing.
The clue: invitations
The clue turned out to be Windows Live Messenger invitations. A little way down the left side of the screen, youâll probably see something like this:
Have the kids leave the room before you click on that.
I had 24 friend requests and seven group invitations. Yes, the count on the Hotmail screen was wrong, so check it even if it says zero.
And sure enough, down in the group invitations:
Uh, No, thanks.
And that was one of the tamer ones. Many others had pictures.
Prevention
At the top of the Invitations list is a âChange your invitation settingsâ link:
Click on that.
The result is the Privacy Options page:
Iâm willing to guess that your privacy settings are a little less restrictive than you might want.
You can examine the options on that page, but I simply chose to lock it down:
My friends can find me in search, view my profile, and see my status. Some friends (those that I havenât specifically marked with limited access) can see my contact information and see new photo albums that I create, but no one can send me friend invitations.
Iâll deal with friending myself, thank you very much.
Cleaning Up
Now, about those existing invitations.
Unfortunately, I havenât found an easy way to deal with the accumulation of invitations other than to simply go back to that Invitations list and click No, thanks on each invitation.
When you do so, Hotmail will display âYou didnât add {name} as a friend. Donât know this person? Let us Know.â where âLet us Knowâ is a link to report the situation. My expectation is that if enough people click on that for a specific invite, then that account could eventually be closed.
But I donât use Messenger!
Well ⊠yes, you do.
If you have a Hotmail account, you have a Windows Live account. And if you have a Windows Live account, you have a Windows Live Messenger account.
Whether or not you ever use the program.
Regardless of how you got it â Hotmail, Messenger, or something else â what you really have is a Windows Live account that can be used for any of the Windows Live services that Microsoft provides.
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Thanks again to Elizabeth who I think just saved a lot of people from some very embarrassing situations.
LOL, no one can see âme friendâ invitations? Doesnât that sound a little ânot rightâ in proper speaking? if I saw that I would question if I was on a legitimate site. If it said âmy friendâ it would be different.
01-Dec-2011
I canât stand using services that allow scammers, spammers, and porn-mongers to proliferate, and I donât think Iâm alone on that. Microsoft better get on the ball with this or their little âLiveâ suite, including Hotmail, Messenger, and Bing, is going to fail.
Donât believe me?
Exhibit A: AOLâonce the dominant internet player, down the toilet. I say itâs because they allowed spammers to run amok so badly.
Exhibit B: eBayâonce a powerhouse, now theyâre being trounced by Amazon. I say itâs because they were overrun with scammers until nobody could trust the site anymore.
Exhibit C: MySpaceâIMO, they were abandoned because people were tired of âpunch the monkey and win a free laptopâ ads, friend requests from porn-mongers, and similar scams.
Bottom lineâkeeping all this crap off your site might cost you a little bit in ad revenue this quarter, but it will help your site survive into the future. The public wonât tolerate too much crap for too long.
And thatâs the end of my rant of the day. :-)
This is for Billy Bob â
I beg to differ; eBay is still going strong. I am a loyal Amazon customer tried and true (and in Prime, no less!) with many hundreds of dollars in sales to my credit there â but there are just some things that Amazon doesnât have, or will never be suited for selling; and for those, eBay is ideal. You cannot (for example) get old Tom Swift Jr. picture-cover books on Amazon for anything resembling a reasonable price. For that, you need the auction site â eBay.   :)
As you might guess, Iâm an equally heavy user of eBay â look for my User I.D. there: Fantasmo.   :)
06-Dec-2011
I have the complete collection, all 33 of âem, Leo. All the way up to, and including, The Galaxy Ghosts. Although, Iâm trying to trade my âdust jacketsâ for picture covers now â and now have only four âlow numbersâ* to go! :)
*(i.e., each book has a number, starting with His Flying Lab, which is #1âŠ)
Leo,
You may want to add information for those who do not have any friend invitations, yes there are some people in the world who do not have invitations and who want to keep it that way.
Those who do not have any friend invitations can get to the Privacy Options by hovering over the word Messenger at the top of the page and selecting Contacts from the box that pops up. On the Contacts page select View Invitations from the menu on the right side of the page. This will bring up the Invitations page as shown in the Prevention section of your article.