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Hi, everyone. Leo Notenboom here for askleo.com.
So, a couple of weeks ago, it might actually almost a month ago by now, I asked my readers to fill out a survey asking what their biggest struggle was in dealing with technology. Basically, I’m trying to find out where to focus attention and what kinds of issues are bubbling to the top for a lot of people.
As it turns out, I was kind of surprised, although I shouldn’t have been, by what is turning out to be the most common topic that people are mentioning to me. So I’m not even through reading the two thousand responses that I’ve gotten so far. I’ve only made it a short way through, but it’s already clear that there is one issue this year that is bubbling to the top more so, I think, than any other, and to be honest, more so than any issue has bubbled to the top in previous years.
And this year’s issue – change. Dealing with change. Being frustrated by the pace of change or the kinds of change that are happening. So, that leaves me in an interesting position, because while I can sympathize with the frustration, because I hear about it frequently on Ask Leo!, many questions come in with some kind of an issue relating to change and frustration in having to deal with change or feeling forced to deal with change when change may not seem necessary.
I also am at a little bit of a disadvantage, because it’s not something that necessarily frustrates me. I, personally, can’t really identify with the frustration. Like I said, it’s different, I understand the frustration. I totally get and accept the frustration, but very personally, I embrace change. I enjoy change. It’s one of the reasons that I’m in this industry because every day there is something new, something to learn from, something to keep me interested, and to be honest, something to keep the brain cells firing.
In that vein, one of the issues that seems to come along with frustration facing change is age. Now, it’s interesting because I hear regularly from people in their 80’s and 90’s who are absolutely having the time of their lives. They are enjoying what’s happening very much like I do.
I do get from responses from people who are frustrated with change that says, “Well just you wait until you get into your 50’s or so forth”, well, I got news, today I’m actually recording this on my 58th birthday. Now, for some of you that still keeps me a young pup. For others, I’m older than you think, and I am absolutely embracing, enjoying and looking forward to the changes that the coming years hold, and I fully expect to as long as I live, be able to do that.
That’s not to say that frustration with change is something that you shouldn’t feel. Change doesn’t affect everybody the same way – I get that. So, the problem that I have is basically understanding what to do. How to advise people? How to help people when they’re frustrated with change.
And that’s kind of where I’m going with this video today. What I’d like to do is, since this is admittedly a weakness of mine, since I don’t have that perspective of really being frustrated with change; I’d like to ask you what do you do to cope with change? What do you do to postpone change? What do you do to deal with the ever-changing world that we live in?
Now, of course, Ask Leo! is all about technology but even in some of the survey responses, I’ve gotten comments that definitely deal with change outside of this fear – everything from washing machines to cars to the world around you to the political landscape. Change is constant. How do you deal with it?
If you’re change averse; if it’s something that you would prefer never happened, how do you deal with it, or more properly, how would you advise someone else to deal with change that they’re not ready to accept; that they’re feeling frustrated and feeling forced to accept. I’d love to hear from you. I expect to learn a lot. Now, there’s one thing I do want to caution you about.
I’m absolutely asking for your feedback, but I understand that change is frustrating. I understand that the perception of change without reason is frustrating – what people call change for the sake of change is frustrating for many, many people. I don’t want this to turn into another “change is frustrating” litany or rant. What I’m really looking for here are positive ways that you could help others to deal with change.
How can they approach change in order to feel better about it, to feel less stressed about it and ultimately feel less frustrated about it? So I’d love to hear your ideas on how to do that. Like I said, if you’re just wanting to say that change is frustrating, you don’t have to. We already know. It’s very, very clear. Like I said, just the tip of the iceberg in the survey results makes that very, very clear. What I’m looking for here, though, are your ideas on how to go about coping with change.
As always, if you’re watching this anywhere but on Ask Leo!, go visit askleo.com. Here’s the link to the article that has this video and the comments that are moderated. I’d love to hear your ideas on coping with change. I think that a lot of people, myself included, will benefit from many of the ideas that I’m sure many of you will share.
So thank you for doing so; thank you for watching. I look forward to seeing you again next week. As always, you know who I am; I’m Leo Notenboom and yep, it is my birthday – 58 years old today. For askleo.com, take care everyone.