Please do not have your third parties send me junk emails or
advertisements! I get enough!
Though it’s not actually a question – more like a directive – it was
included with a question. A question where, naturally, the questioner
gave me their email address.
As a way to stop spam, I think it’s important to realize that simply
asking people not to spam you likely won’t work.
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Whenever you give anyone your email address, be it me, an online
store, a mailing list, whatever, you need to think for a moment about
exactly how much you know about them, and whether or not you want to
I’m legitimate, and I don’t spam. I’m not going to give your email
address to third parties.
But I could be lying.
And if I was lying, what do you think I’m going to do with a request
that asks me politely not to spam? I’m going to ignore it.
information to third parties they’re going to do it whether you ask
nicely or not.”
If someone is going to spam you or sell your information to third
parties they’re going to do it whether you ask nicely or not.
You need to know who it is you’re giving your email address to. Use a
“throw-away” or junk email address for people you don’t trust. And that
includes me. Until you feel comfortable that I am what I say I am, and
that I’m not going to spam you, don’t use your primary email address –
use an alternate.
This is one of the things that free email accounts are perfect for –
set up a Hotmail account and use it for this. If it gets tons of spam,
so what? You look for the specific reply from whom you expect it, and
then ignore it the rest of the time.
With spam being as rampant as it is these days, you need to take
extra steps to protect your inbox.
Asking politely that someone not spam you is, sadly, not the